Tuesday, February 5, 2019

James Ingram "I Don't Have the Heart"

James Ingram passed away last week, but leaves my generation with some of the smoothest R&B ballads from the '80s and '90s. In particular, I'll always remember Ken Cocker on Chicago's 100.3 WPNT-FM on the air one afternoon sharing the meaning behind Ingram's signature tune, "I Don't Have the Heart". The song encapsulates what some of us may have struggled with at one point.

What set Ingram apart among most of his contemporaries is he sang about love as it really is -- not how it's imagined to be in all those Hallmark Channel movies. Love is as dangerous as it is wonderful. As warm as it could be cold. For love to be complete, it must be reciprocated. The love you give has to be received back. Ingram knows he's not in love with a woman who loves him in "I Don't Have the Heart". He painfully recognizes he cannot return this love. With both a heart that can't love her and a heart that doesn't want to hurt her, Ingram sings of his struggle as gently as he can. The song clearly struck a chord as it went to #1 in 1990 (#2 on the Hot Adult Contemporary Chart).